People have too much free time on their hands.
Hey, we’re just as guilty, we cover these same people who have too much time on their hands which means we have DOUBLE the amount of free time on our hands …
First world problems, right?
Anyway, Erynn Brook (a person you’ve likely never heard of) claimed she would write one tweet about toxic masculinity for every one ‘like’ her original tweet received and holy cow, talk about a long and frankly stupid thread.
Alright let’s do this. 1 like = 1 toxic masculinity thing.
Things may vary between observations, suggestions and wtf-ions.
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
There is no way in HELL we’re covering all of these. #AintNobodyGotTimeForThat
1. Rating people (by attractiveness) on a scale of 1-10.
It’s weird. I have never met a woman who does this. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
This editor is a female, and she has absolutely done this.
Like Justin Amash, he is easily a 10.
But we digress.
2. “Real Man” narratives. i.e. “a real man does x/doesn’t y”
Manhood is not an elite club. All men are part of manhood and masculinity whether you approve of them are not. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Huh?
4. That thing where you dismiss something a woman says and then 3 days later we hear you saying it to someone like it was your idea all along? Cite your sources, you plagiarists.#ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Alrighty then.
6. Not taking care of yourselves. Go to the doctor. Go to the dentist. Do these things on your own, don’t just complain to us about them. You make us worry about you and then tell us it’s nothing and do nothing about it. Take care of yourselves. You’re grown.#ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
You know she’s a blast at birthday parties.
9. Offering advice before empathy.
In order to trust your advice people need to know that you know where they’re coming from. Skipping over their feelings makes them feel dismissed. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Isn’t that sort of what she’s doing? You know, never mind.
11. Participating in the objectification of women.
This is big: if you talk with your buddies about a woman in a way that you wouldn’t let them talk about your partner: you are assigning value to a woman based on her relationship to you and not her humanity. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Calm down, cupcake.
14. Breadwinner/man of the house/head of the family narratives. These reinforce the successful man trope. You’re worth more than your money. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
But if you’re making good money and taking care of yourself and your family, MORE power to you.
Who are these people?
16. The gendering of tasks. Washing dishes is not woman’s work and setting up the PlayStation is not men’s work. Do not assume that because you don’t like doing something it’s girly. I don’t like washing dishes either.#ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
You know that face you make when you’re in an elevator with a bunch of strangers and you know someone broke wind but you don’t want to say, ‘MY GAWD, WHAT IS THAT STINK?’ Yup, made that face.
20. Expecting people to educate you.
Look, just because I talk about feminism all the time doesn't mean I want to make a personalized lesson plan for you. Just because I have ADHD doesn't mean I want to tell you all about it. Google it, you've got time.#ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
We can’t even.
25. The concept of “nagging”. It’s highly gendered. It characterizes asking for something as an act that doesn’t involve you. It does. You were asked. No one nags for nothing. Reframe “nagging” as “asking”. i.e.”My wife keeps asking me to take out the trash.” #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Nag nag nag.
28. Your opinions on makeup. Unless you’re wearing it, I don’t want to hear it. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Or better yet, just don’t wear it.
29. Your interests are not more important than our reality. This can include things like spending on your hobbies without factoring in the grocery budget or equating me buying things I need to you buying things you want. #ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) April 30, 2018
Ok, that’s enough.
Wow.
Like we said, some people have a LOT of free time on their hands.
Oh, we have to include just one more … this is our favorite.
109. I swear to Goddess, if buzzfeed or any of those random sites turns this thread into an article and doesn’t pay me for it… I’m calling that toxic masculinity too. On the record.#ToxicMasculinity
— Erynn Brook (@ErynnBrook) May 1, 2018
*waves to Erynn*
*thumps chest*
SJWs are gonna SJW.
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