A gentleman who is also a successful businessman made an informational post about how young men might find a nice lady to marry. I agreed with most of the advice except for the 'go to yoga and ask a woman on a date'. Most young ladies go to Pilates these days, and they don't want men in their Pilates classes. It makes them feel 'exposed' for lack of a better term. The rest of it was great though.
Attention Young Men: I am surrounded by 20 year old girls in my life that are smart, capable, hard working and cute. Nobody is dating them. Not sure what the deal is, but I don’t get it. Step 1: Stop playing video games Step 2: Head to great clips and get that lettuce cleaned up Step 3: Hit a shower (when dating hygiene is critical) Step 4: Go clean your car Step 5: Sign up for a yoga class Step 6: Go to the yoga class Step 7: Ask a cute for her phone number at yoga class (yes you can meet girls IRL and not just on the apps - 10/10 the Dirt Dog highly recommends) Step 8: Follow up within 2 days with a phone call and ask them out for this coming weekend Friday or Saturday night. Step 9: IMPORTANT - come up with a good game plane for date night. Get a dinner reservation, get an activity planned. Let them know in advance what you are doing so they can dress appropriately. I know you are gunna roll off the couch and head to date night, but they are not. They are going to stress about what to wear and call at least 6 different people on FaceTime to ask their opinion. Step 10: I highly recommend you bring flowers to the door step. I’m not covering that you go to the doorstep, because if you don’t do that you have no hope here. Women want men to date them. You don’t need to break the bank on flowers. Head to Trader Joe’s. Grab 2 different kinds of flowers. If you don’t know what matches find the closest looking lady to your mom at TJ’s and ask her. Wrap the 2 flowers into 1 bouquet with paper. Bonus Points you can cut open a TJ bag and use that as the paper. Step 11: Be a gentleman on the date. She isn’t there to hear your life story. Ask her about her. For every 1 question you answer, ask her 3. Open Doors, pay for the meal, be polite. Provided you follow most of this guideline you are highly likely to get yourself an opportunity for date number 2. Keep going until you find someone that you can’t imagine not being around all the time. That’s when you have found a good one for you. My life is complete with my wife as my companion. I wish you the same fortune in life. Happy Hunting.
— Chris Hatch (@Dirtdog) October 10, 2026
Apparently, the 'right wing' manosphere took umbrage with this post though. Here was my response.
this is great advice and so true. My daughter is one of those 20 year olds. She’s attractive, very fit, in school to be a nurse, the kindest soul on the planet, loves Jesus, is not and has not ever been on the dating apps and she cannot find a nice guy to date. (the only part of this advice I would change is the yoga part. Most young women now do Pilates and they really don’t want men in their classes. Just go to the gym.)
— Just Mindy 🐊 (@just_mindy) October 11, 2026
I shared my own personal experience with a daughter who is dating. Obviously, I am her biggest fan so I want to share what someone else who met her in real life has to say about her.
someone who has met my daughter irl so you can see I’m not just a Mom who is hyping her kid ❤️
— Just Mindy 🐊 (@just_mindy) October 11, 2026
She really is an amazing young woman, (that's all God and not me. She is not like me, at all. Thankfully). It shouldn't be hard for her to find a nice young man.
I am a 6'4 blue eyed multi millionaire the problem isn't a shortage of 20 year old girls its that every single one of them is a whore.
— Beaver 🦁 (@beaverd) October 10, 2026
Attention Young Men: I am surrounded by 20-year-old women for some reason. But none of them are going on dates! This is clearly your fault. Here’s how you stop being lame. Step 1: Stop playing the Pokemans Step 2: Go to a local mall (where all the youths hang out) to find a girl Step 3: Tell her you think she’s a grooovy chick Step 4: Ask her to the sock hop or to get a milkshake at the soda shop Step 5: When she says yes, do a cool skateboard trick and say “Far out man!”
— Patrick Neve (@catholicpat) October 11, 2026
These are the kinds of replies the post received. First of all, not all 20-year-old women are 'w****s'. Maybe go to church to try and meet a young lady if you truly believe that. Secondly, the advice basically was: approach a woman respectfully, plan a nice date, bring flowers and call her after. Why are men acting like this is outrageous?
If you want a wife, do this. You’re taking the yoga part too literally. Get off the apps. Go outside. Talk to people in real life. Every girl wants f***ing flowers. Open doors. Use your manners. Have good hygiene. Being a gentleman never goes out of style despite what the incels on the internet are telling you.
— rachel (@rachcorrine) October 10, 2026
Social media and dating apps have really screwed up the dating scene. If some conservative can find an easy way for nice young people to connect for serious relationships, they'd be lauded a hero.
