Americans, many of us, at least, have lost the art of being a friend and offering hospitality. Our lives are busy. Children have organized activities one after another, both parents work, children go to daycare, and at the end of the day, the family helps the children complete homework before the whole of the family collapses into bed. This leaves little time for reaching out to our communities and forming bonds with others. This is a huge mistake.
Hate to break it to you guys but sometimes you have to do things you don’t like for the sake of having a community. Avoiding consistency with the people in your life is working against us and the data already shows it. If you think connections can be sustained on absence carry on
— E5 (@E5THXR) March 7, 2026
Being a friend and a successful villager will take work. It takes showing up. It means a sacrifice of your time and treasure. It means taking initiative and not assuming someone else will handle it. It means putting oneself out with no expectation of anything in return.
everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager
— Adele Bloch (@adele_bloch) March 13, 2026
> drive your friends to the airport
> go to their party even when you're tired
> stop cancelling last minute
> host at your place
> support the wins & losses
it's worth every ounce of effort https://t.co/2BhPqG0HiA
My Dad was wonderful at this. He was always the first to offer someone a ride to the airport, help with a household project, or a trip in the boat for fun or to fish. He hosted parties at our home constantly. Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Super Bowl, Labor Day, Memorial Day, Independence Day, and Saturday College Football Games were always at our hours. My Dad showed up to every single baseball game for my son and kept the book. On several occasions, I saw him slip Cash to fathers at our church struggling with young families for Christmas presents. In the last six months of his life, one of his friends needed to drive his mother home to Virginia from Florida. My Dad didn't want him going alone, so he rode with him. He loved a road trip. It's not surprising his funeral was standing room alone. He had been an amazing villager and his village showed up for him. Through all of this, my Father often worked multiple jobs. He always worked two jobs, his regular job and a member of the Florida National Guard. Still he made time.
House viewing
— Oh Chale. (@Tbag__1) March 13, 2026
Moving houses
Driving Test
Hospital Admissions
Graduation
Wedding
Funeral
Outdooring
Birthday Dinners
Music Concerts
Airport pickups and Dropoffs
Trips
Just pull up https://t.co/FhZELvAMWK
My son is often the first person his friends call on to move. He is a big man and he has a truck. He never fails to show up. He learned the art of making and keeping friends from my Dad.
the price of community is inconvenience https://t.co/NrwpUPFIuV
— t (@fueledbyrin) March 7, 2026
Nobody wanna hear about ‘emotional labor’ and ‘boundaries’ when they need a ride to the airport
— Thomas Moore (@TomAandTom1) March 13, 2026
This is why a lot of modern friendships ain’t real https://t.co/PaUF6C69x5
This right here. Extreme individualism is part of why we’re in the situation we’re in. Be a part of something and act selflessly. https://t.co/AUQIU3ilTZ
— Grinch (@Uncatfishable) March 13, 2026
Join the village, participate in the village or the village may view you as the idiot and leave you behind.
