I feel really sorry for young people dating today. On one hand men are told they must be sensitive, caring and slow to anger but also fully provide for their mate. At the same time, young women are told they should want to ascend some imaginary corporate ladder and break glass ceilings, but also listen to their biological clock tick tick ticking because they better have kids or be ready to freeze their eggs. Most of these kids, at least half, come from broken homes and don't have any example of how to properly navigate relationships, and they have lost faith in the whole institution of marriage. It's a mess.
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— Mark 🥓 🥓 (@PitmasterMark69) June 29, 2024
Also, the internet is ruthless. Women are expected to be beautiful and fit, but if they wear make-up, they are said to be 'catfishing' about their looks. As if women haven't been wearing makeup forever to accentuate the positives.
"May I meet you?" Is not a bad pickup line | ✍️ @robkhenderson https://t.co/jKw0k3SSTb
— The Times and The Sunday Times (@thetimes) November 18, 2025
According to this article, 45% of young men 18-25 (prime dating ages), have never asked a woman on a date. Llike, ever.
Some felt his advice was hopelessly naive and unrealistic. But at a time when 45 per cent of men aged 18 to 25 have never asked a girl out in person, he should be applauded for offering some kind of solution to our current crisis. Increasingly, we are seeing a generation of “lost boys” opting out of education, employment, marriage and fatherhood, in favour of more dystopian pursuits, often found online.
In other words, a whole bunch of young women need to touch grass, get out of the chat rooms and video game streams and interact with real people in the real world. More specifically, meet and speak to women.
First, learn how to talk to people in general, not just women. Too many young men ask how to talk to the opposite sex, which skips over the more basic skill. You need to learn how to talk to human beings. Speak with your friends more often. Spend more time around other people. If the only person who will talk with you is your mom, then start there. The point is to become comfortable speaking, listening, and responding. Before you learn how to talk to the opposite sex, you need to learn how to talk to people in general. If you won’t talk to the Uber driver or your barber, you’re never going to turn into Casanova and meet the woman of your dreams.
I'm thankful my own 25 year old son was able to find a perfect mate and they will marry in 2026. My daughter is a beautiful 19 year old redhead who keeps herself in tip top shape at the gym, and is literally one of the most kind people you'll ever meet. She does date, but most men have no idea how do that. They want to get fast food and hang out at our house or expect her to pay half. Hanging out at our house is great once you've also planned a couple of nice dates to prove you can be a leader and decision maker. Too many want to skip that step. I trained my own son in how to do those things. I recommend other parents do the same. Tell your son he needs to plan a date, pick up a young lady, go to the door to greet her and her family (if applicable), open the door and pay for the meal. Apparently, this is a lost art.
The despair that infects men today is a major cause of their unattractiveness.
— Pat Stedman | Dating & Relationship Coach for Men (@Pat_Stedman) November 9, 2025
Women don't want to be with men who offer them no positive vision of the future. And they certainly don't want to have children with them.
Leadership isn't control. It's vision.
Young men and women don't have to go through life alone. A fulfilling relationship can bring immense joy to their life. There is more to life then a made up virtual world. Go make human connection. You won't regret it.
