Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's Surrogacy Choice for Twin Boys Sparks Ethical Controversy

Alternative paths to building a family will always draw scrutiny and spark criticism. I try to steer clear of that mess—not because I don’t have thoughts, but because I get it: people desperately want kids. When the traditional route fails, they’ll move mountains to make it happen. I’ve never walked that road. My two children came easily once I started trying. Sure, preeclampsia hit with my son, but medication and an early induction kept it in check. My daughter’s pregnancy? Smooth sailing. Epidurals made both births painless—a massive blessing I don’t take for granted. I can’t fathom enduring years of miscarriages or the gut punch of negative tests month after month. That kind of pain must be soul-crushing, so I keep my nose out of it.

Still, I’ve had casual debates with friends about same-sex couples—especially two men—hiring a woman to carry a baby that’s then taken from her at birth. It’s different with lesbian couples, where one partner typically carries the child, sidestepping the same ethical tangles. Biology isn’t subtle: babies bond with their mothers. They know her voice, her scent. Are we hurting them by severing that tie right out of the gate? Probably. But I’m no expert—just someone who’s never had to fight that fight.

Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie using a surrogate to get twin boys is ridiculously disappointing.
— Slarty Bartfast (@Poppy_yyyyyyyy) March 24, 2025

This tweet only caught my attention because I've read Adichie a bit. Her work is not my usual fare. It's important to know what modern day 'feminists' believe, so I do read her stuff, occasionally. I sort of rolled my eyes because honestly, it's just another fight over surrogacy. I did read some of the replies and this one jumped out at me:

Compounded by reading her justification in an article:https://t.co/Un0aafRBDk
— Paula Crosswell (@EdgeWatching) March 24, 2025

This is where I had to step in. She actually called it 'wearing a pregnancy.' That phrase alone exposes the mess we’ve stumbled into by pretending men can get pregnant and by paying vulnerable women to bear the children of the wealthy. It’s a dangerous slide. Suddenly, pregnancy becomes a status symbol—like a Birkin or a Hermès bag a woman 'wears'. From that single statement, it’s obvious Adichie viewed her surrogate as nothing more than a vessel—a disposable container to offload the labor so she could focus on writing books and gallivanting with her doctor husband. Disgusting. Even if Adichie couldn’t carry a child herself, someone with her command of language should know better than to frame it this way. It’s grotesque and tells us everything we need to know.

“I didn’t wear them myself.” What an insane way to describe pregnancy.
— Slarty Bartfast (@Poppy_yyyyyyyy) March 24, 2025

A woman claiming to be a feminist and then engaging in human trafficking is something that we’re allowed to feel disappointed about.
— Slarty Bartfast (@Poppy_yyyyyyyy) March 25, 2025

Surrogacy is not ok. It’s human trafficking. It is 3x higher risk for severe pregnancy complications including sepsis, pre-eclampsia and postpartum haemorrhage. Babies bond in utero with their mothers- at birth they want her, nobody else. Women are not incubators.
— SurrogacyConcern (@SurrogConcern) March 25, 2025

It’s evident that Adichie views women in this light. This, I suppose, is the new face of feminism. Women delay pregnancy until they’re too old to carry a child themselves—Adichie is 47—so they hire a younger, healthier woman in need of money to take on the physical burden they avoided while prioritizing their own careers and personal goals.

We should all be feminists (except for my surrogate)
— Will Chamberlain (@willchamberlain) March 25, 2025

Her surrogate is likely young and struggling financially—perfect for the role. She should feel privileged to carry a wealthy woman’s twins, maybe even scrape together enough to cover her bills. Adichie’s a job creator, after all—how generous of her!

Women, get comfortable with the fact that THE WORLD DOESN’T OWE YOU A BABY. Whether at 21, 30, 37, 45 or whatever age you think makes your circumstances “correct”. If you can’t get it through your own body, especially with modern medicine and ultra natalist. Deal with it! https://t.co/MqXl2DR3qa
— Jordan 🇨🇩 (@True_JordanVIP) March 25, 2025

The problem with defending surrogacy is that it has a class relationship where it is not an option available to everyone, only the rich and influential. And so intersectionality undermines the arguments for consent and power dynamics highlight shaky ethics. https://t.co/UWvkQLBeGQ
— ohi|2d| (@_bigSnek) March 25, 2025

Intersectionality, it seems, is a luxury reserved for women with power and wealth. That’s the core flaw in the Leftist worldview: a clique of privileged, self-absorbed elites navel-gazing, with scant regard for the working class they claim to champion.

Nigerians in the quotes defending their god. You people are as foolish as ever. Any feminist who refuses to acknowledge how unethical surrogacy is, is a fool. My uncle and his wife have been trying to get pregnant for years, they've only ever tried IVF because they aren't evil. https://t.co/0SoLuIFnYA
— Tracy (@tracy_tries) March 25, 2025

To bring life into the world is a sacred gift entrusted to women alone. No imitation can ever measure up.