We’re getting close to Christmas, so forgive us for going a little bit Hallmark Channel and posting this next thread, which spans several days and has a happy ending we weren’t expecting. It all begins with a really noisy house party that went off next door to writer Candice Marie Benbow at 3 a.m.
I wanted the best way to tell my neighbor that he tried it with his late night party. So I wrote him a letter and baked him a cake. pic.twitter.com/SxPKAzOHp0
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 15, 2018
The update is, thankfully, there is no update. I knocked on his door but he didn’t answer so I had to leave it in a bag on his door. When I left out, it wasn’t on his door anymore. So I’m taking that to mean he got and read it.
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
Folks are calling what I did extra. It was extra AF. Throwing a house party at 3am is extra AF, too.
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
“Why didn’t you just go over there?” I live alone. I didn’t know who/what I could’ve met going by myself. And it was 3AM!!! I’m not getting dressed to leave my apartment at 3am because niggas wanna be inconsiderate. Plus, I couldn’t find my bra. It was 3am. ??♀️
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
If this were any other Twitchy thread, she’d be looking for her sidearm and not a bra, but like we said, this is something different.
“Why didn’t you call 911?” I ONLY call police for emergencies. They are killing us every other day and getting away with it. Had anything resulted in an unfortunate outcome, not only would my safety be at risk, I’d feel horrible. I don’t call the police on us if I can help it.
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
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Ultimately, as a single woman, I gotta be mindful of how I navigate tense situations. I have to live here, too. I knew I needed to say something. I was looking for a way that didn’t make it confrontational. Plus I really love to bake! ?
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
I know folks are saying they wouldn’t eat the cake but I hope he takes into consideration that I put my real name on the letter, wouldn’t incriminate myself and just wouldn’t be that mean! LOL!
So I hope he eats the cake but more than that, I hope he doesn’t do that shit again!!
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
AND HIS MUSIC TONIGHT IS THE LOWEST IT HAS EVER BEEN! #PrayerAndPoundCakeWork
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018
Two days later …
UPDATE: I JUST MET MY NEIGHBOR TOMMY!!!! He’s so freaking cool! He apologized for the noise, promised to invite me to the next party and most importantly…HE SAID MY POUND CAKE WAS AMAZING!!!! pic.twitter.com/NcU8t0ZfqT
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018
My neighbor is a music video producer. EVERYTHING makes sense now. ??????????
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018
While talking to Tommy, I learned that he's new to the area as well *and* this is his first Christmas without his daughter, who passed away earlier this year in a car accident.
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018
Yall know how rough grieving was for me in the months following Mama's death. I can only imagine what it would have felt like for someone to confront me with anger when I'm trying my best to get through my first holiday season.
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018
It was a sweet and gentle reminder that we never know what folks are going through and it is always best to lead with kindness. When we can extend grace, we really should.
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018
And she’s invited to the next party, which hopefully will be lit AF.
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