Well, society, we had a good run:

We can’t today.

We don’t blame you. Especially after we tried to read the damn thing:

If the argument against spooning were only a physical one, I would not feel so strongly. After all, many people are gluttons for punishment—who am I to deny them their strange pleasure? But there’s a deeper issue here, a troubling aspect of spooning that emerges in the dimension of ideology, of what it all means.

Please recall the big spoon/little spoon roles I described earlier. A look at the gay adaptation of these terms is useful in exposing the power relationship they instantiate. Among gay men, big spoon and little spoon have become softer ways of signaling whether one is a top or a bottom during sex. But, as has been true of the top/bottom dynamic since the beginning, these also carry certain connotative weight: Big spoons are manly and will take care of you (provided you let them use you to take care of themselves); little spoons are fragile, passive creatures that need to be held and kept safe. This, of course, is fundamentally a sexist arrangement, one that casts the big spoon as “the man” and the little spoon as “the woman.” To say that this power imbalance is built into all acts of spooning—whichever the sexes engaged—is not, I think, an overstatement. Indeed, I would argue that spooning is always already a power play, a perverse strategy by which we nightly enact the unjust relations of “big” and “little” privilege that plague our society on every level.

We can do better than this.

It’s certainly hard to do worse than that.


It sure reads like parody …

But honestly, we can no longer put it past Slate to publish this kind of crap in earnest.

And that’s what’s really depressing..



Need a palate cleanser? Here’s an idea:

Editor’s note: The title of this piece originally referred to “Slate’s ‘sexist’ spooning piece.” We’ve altered the title for to clarify that spooning — not the piece itself — is being referred to by Slate as “sexist.” Also, this post has been updated with additional tweets.