Singer Ginuwine found himself in a bit of hot water recently for an egregious crime against humanity. So, what’d he do that was so awful?
He refused a trans woman’s unsolicited advances. On live TV, no less! The horror!
Singer Ginuwine has sparked a heated debate on Twitter after a recent episode of Celebrity Big Brother UK. In the latest episode, Ginuwine seemingly rejected fellow housemate India Willoughby.
The controversy stems from a conversation between Willoughby and the “Pony” singer, in which she asked whether he would date a trans woman. “You would date me, yeah,” Willoughby, who is a trans woman herself, asked. “Not if you were trans,” Ginuwine replied. After Ginuwine replied that he would not date a trans woman, Willoughby attempted to plant a kiss on the singer. When her advance was rejected, Willoughby stormed off.
okay, so lemme get this right: Ginuwine is ASKED if he’d ever date a trans woman. He RESPONDS no. The trans woman asking then IGNORES both his stated preferences and his agency and TRIES TO KISS Ginuwine, which he rejects.
and all this makes Ginuwine transphobic?
— RODNEY BLU (@RodneyBlu) January 9, 2018
This man is being raked over the coals because he didn't want to kiss another man on television. God help us. https://t.co/Rc1GfkLAKE
— Kira (@RealKiraDavis) January 9, 2018
Some people are indeed accusing him of transphobia:
Ginuwine was transphobic and we can criticize him for that WHILE ALSO recognizing that nobody should be made to kiss anyone they don’t want to kiss. They’re not mutually exclusive.
— Helen Price (@HelenRPrice) January 9, 2018
if you have a sexual preference that discriminates against transgender men or transgender women, you are transphobic.
this is a fact.#ginuwine
— LGBTQIA #LoveWins (@CityTerrorism) January 9, 2018
It’s one thing not wanting to kiss someone. It’s another if you would kiss them, but u don’t bc they’re trans. @Ginuwine you’re transphobic. I wish you nothing, but the worst and I hope this is the end of your 20+ years struggling career ??
— pettywise (@chrisholmez) January 9, 2018
Clearly, that’s B.S.
Why is Ginuwine “under fire” for refusing a kiss from a trans woman?
Isn’t the whole purpose of the #MeToo movement to fight for people’s right to say “No” to unwanted sexual advances?
“No” means “No”.
— nuff (@nuffsaidNY) January 8, 2018
Since when are we requiring explanations for peoples' sexual boundaries? What happened to "No means no?" https://t.co/vlB90paRpX
— Kaeley Triller (@KaeleyT) January 8, 2018
I thought "no" meant no? pic.twitter.com/HGuV80FLuw
— Sweetened Beverage Recovery Fee (@jasonelevation) January 9, 2018
It does. Unless the person saying no is a man who doesn’t want to kiss a biological male. We wonder … would all the people attacking Ginuwine for his perfectly valid feelings be up for some thought experiments?
If Ginuwine's refusal to date a trans person is transphobic, then is a lesbian's refusal to date me bc I'm a man considered heterophobic?
— Rob Gazaway (@Gaztastic_Panda) January 9, 2018
Calling Ginuwine transphobic for not wanting to kiss a trans woman makes as much sense as me trying to kiss a lesbian, getting rejected, then calling her heterophobic
— Hacksaw Jim Thuggin (@tokthadon) January 9, 2018
Why is it that horribly degrading things are celebrated as long as the victims are male and the perpetrators are LGBT?
Imagine an attractive woman being forced to kiss another woman to satisfy a pervy straight male audience. https://t.co/VePbJ8G2mf
— Stephen Herreid (@StephenHerreid) January 9, 2018
No one should be forced to kiss anyone. Full stop.
#Ginuwine is not transphobic for refusing to kiss the individual. You throw that phrase around so much its lost all meaning. You are destroying your fight when you attack EVERYONE for no reason at all. Transphobic is not a refusal of unwanted advances.
— kashavera (@kashavera) January 9, 2018
Why is he under fire for not kissing anyone he doesn’t want to? Now if he wanted to kiss this trans and he didn’t want to kiss Ginuwine wouldn’t they claim Ginuwine was sexual assaulting him?
— Mrsscott2u (@Imonfyah) January 8, 2018
— A. M. Ahmed (@chez_isaaq) January 9, 2018
So someone was forcing themselves on ginuwine and he declined.
Weren’t y’all just getting Ppl out the paint for forcing themselves on women who didn’t want it?? Where’s the same energy https://t.co/Bp1a6c6qeY
— Just Be You (@WalkLikeWalt) January 8, 2018
fuck Ginuwine’s consent on how he uses HIS body.
a trans woman wants a kiss and he is obligated to give it, huh?
BUT y’all just hollered [#TImeisUP] last night
where is that energy?
— ?? [YO]s Truly (@LifeAsKing) January 8, 2018
If there’s a silver lining in this stupidity, it’s that based on Twitter, at least, Ginuwine has a lot more defenders than detractors:
Why is Ginuwine under fire for rejecting a kiss from a trans?
I’m pretty sure if he rejected one from a woman who wasn’t trans there would be no outrage..
— عائشة (@aishathepoet) January 9, 2018
There’s an entire #metoo movement on sexual harassment and y’all want to say #Ginuwine is #transphobic for refusing an UNWANTED sexual advance by someone who just happens to be trans? Y’all trash #CBBIndia #CBBGinuwine
— Liecey (@Liecey) January 9, 2018
Ahhh some of you are fried. Ginuwine said he won't kiss a trans woman & you want to be up in arms.
His preference is a biological female, nothing more and nothing less. He doesn't want to step outside of that and he's transphobic? Fuck outta here. pic.twitter.com/EU221IPNCV
— Johnnie Walker Jr. ?? (@IAmGenesis_) January 8, 2018
The same nation that spoke outrage about the sexual behaviour of those in power will stand by & let @Ginuwine a man be bullied for his sexual preference. While comparing his preference's to racism. Sick
— blowing kisses (@esther_esti) January 9, 2018
Ginuwine under no circumstances is required to kiss anyone he doesn't want to kiss. Let's cut the BS.
— Pre_She_Ate_Me (@Suite_Tea) January 9, 2018
Why the fuck is he under fire? Ginuwine has to kiss whoever we say so? What kind of trash is this fam https://t.co/W7wFdlQ8CH
— Vada Frogs (@wristsisfrogs) January 8, 2018
You have done nothing wrong, @Ginuwine. Fuck em.
— MercedezUAZ (@MercedezUAZ) January 8, 2018