As my son and daughter have reached adulthood, we have had many conversations about preparing for their futures. One of those conversations revolved around gender roles in marriage and women working outside the home. I have been the main breadwinner for our family always. I had no other option. I was blessed to find work from home work 15 years ago when it was less popular plus I had very involved parents to help me with their grandchildren. I don't know how I would have managed otherwise. God was gracious. I told my son he should expect his wife to want to stay home with their children. I would have loved that option. I spent so many years stressed trying to do it all. You can't do it all well. That's just the facts. Perhaps, his wife may want to work. If so, I hope to be the supportive Mother in Law offering an alternative to child care. To my daughter, I've advised her to find a husband who values motherhood and who will provide for her joyfully. Media host, Alex Clark, shared her thoughts on the topic today.
This guy on Instagram posted a viral video asking other men how many jobs they’d be willing to work so their wife could be a stay at home mom if she wanted to. OP said he’d work as many as he needed to, and posted 1 Timothy 5:8 which says, “Anyone who does not provide for their…
— Alex Clark (@yoalexrapz) May 1, 2024
being a stay at home mom isn’t about having a princess life where you don’t work.
— 𝙲𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚝𝚗𝚎𝚢 𝙺𝚗𝚒𝚕𝚕 (@courtneyknill) May 1, 2024
its a couple deciding that it’s advantageous for their family for the mom to take care of domestic tasks and child rearing instead of having a job that she works outside of the home. https://t.co/ErX4MQhdSN
Staying at home rearing children is certainly not easy. It is a different kind of hard. It is working for the benefit of your family rather than that of a corporation.
Yes men should be willing to work for the SAHM. But working themselves to the bone to keep up with the joneses is a no. More importantly, husbands and wives should be willing to descale their lifestyle for the sake of their kids. https://t.co/rWPemmATdm
— MoMo Funke (@MoMoFunke) May 1, 2024
It certainly requires sacrifices for most families.
It’s a sad fact that men can’t just work 1 job and provide for the family anymore. https://t.co/8ZHM1XZ365
— Marcus Saylor (@markjohnsaylor) May 1, 2024
Should be a conversation they have before getting married. As for the last guy’s remark “if I’m working 8 hours a day, you’re doing the same” kind of strikes me as ignorant of all the real work that most stay-at-home moms do everyday (especially if they homeschool and cannot…
— Christina Pushaw 🐊 🇺🇸 (@ChristinaPushaw) May 1, 2024
This is exactly why this conversation should happen shortly into dating. If a man has the idea his wife should work as many hours outside the home as him, he's probably not going to be a willing provider.
It should not be a surprise. Men’s job is to provide. Men that don’t consider running a household and rearing children work aren’t worthy of acknowledgment.
— Kyle Seraphin (@KyleSeraphin) May 1, 2024
What some men can’t understand is how a SAHW (and mostly a mom) is a luxury for them! There is no stress or questions on what to do when a kid is sick, or who will pick a child from sport if you need to work late. The house is much more peaceful and well-run. It is a tremendous…
— claudia (@WSearch4Meaning) May 1, 2024
Another thing to add is the responsibility of the wife to steward the money well for the family so that dad is able to spend time with his wife and children too! The idea that dads just need to provide finances isn’t a good plan for a thriving family. Kids enjoy his company!
— ReConwayLu (@ReConwayLu) May 1, 2024
Indeed. It is also nice if a wife can earn extra money from home if needed, but that is not always feasible. With the right attitudes, budgeting, and a modest life, a mother being home with her children is very possible and should be celebrated. I'm heartened to see more young women making this choice. It shows this generation of mothers are prioritizing home and family. That can only benefit our country.
