My children are reaching the age where they have friends getting married and having babies. They are being invited to many showers and wedding celebrations and baby showers. Obviously, I would never mention anything to their lovely friends, but internally, I cringe. Why, you may ask? There are rules of etiquette and young people today are abandoning them.
Here are some rules of etiquette I have seen young women break recently:
— Just Mindy 🐊 (@just_mindy) January 19, 2025
1. your bridal or baby shower should not be hosted by yourself or your mother. It can be hosted by your sister, a cousin, a friend or a group of people. It is considered rude for you or your mother to host…
This thread went wildly viral and it was split among people who agreed with me and were so happy someone finally said it and people who believe these rules are antiquated and they don't have to follow them these days. They probably won't like my response to that. Basically, rules of etiquette help us have an orderly society and also protects your name and reputation in your community.
Etiquette has value, but there is a lot of it that is very cultural and, well, very class based. Judging people in a different cultural context by norms that have often changed a ton in the last 100 years, anyways, and are no longer hold the same meaning can just be used as a way…
— Elwë Singollo ❄️🧝🏻♀️ (@Strangeland_Elf) January 19, 2025
Of course, rules change and vary among different cultures, but many of them are in place so you don't look like someone who is greedy or attention seeking. For example, this is the reason a bride or a mother should never host a shower. People may see that as a gift grab by a family. When someone else hosts, it takes away that stigma. Plus, the mother of the bride has enough on her plate.
Excellent. Having paid for two daughters’ weddings where I was ignored while stating these exact kinds of etiquette rules, I’m glad to know there are some in the world still keep manners in vogue. Thank you. https://t.co/IHqWfqlXkM
— PoliticalRuss3 (@PoliticalRuss3) January 19, 2025
It makes all situations much more lovely when there is a set of norms to follow.
it’s not outdated. It’s still very much good manners. People just decided to not follow rules of etiquette because they didn’t like them https://t.co/TaquZlQynP
— Just Mindy 🐊 (@just_mindy) January 19, 2025
Refusal to follow good etiquette has made for a more coarse society and that effects everyone. Things like opening the door for ladies, giving up your seat to a pregnant woman and a man walking on the outside of the sidewalk make for a more genteel way of living. Let's embrace it rather than dispose of it. It's good for us all. Also, please place your napkin in your lap and pull out the chair for ladies before you are seated. Oh, also, saying yes mam and no mam and yes sir and no sir goes a really long way. I'm quite certain it is how my young son so quickly was hired at his fire department. Exhibiting you have been reared to adhere to polite manners can quickly endear you to a date or employer. You're welcome.
Rules of etiquette benefit society.
— Brittany (@brittyboo945) January 19, 2025
Indeed.
