We did a post of Jill Filipovic last spring when she was looking for more essays from parents who regret having children. She knew they were out there — they just weren’t speaking up. Now she has a new piece on Substack about motherhood, and she’s promoting it with a thread on how the carer/earner nuclear family model “is a historical anomaly that is tremendously isolating and often financially devastating.” The nuclear family is in the crosshairs; it’s one of those things associated with “whiteness” — as we reported in December of 2020, the New York City teachers’ union had adopted its proposed “Black Lives Matter at School” resolution, which began, “We are committed to disrupting the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and ‘villages’ that collectively care for one another, and especially ‘our’ children to the degree that mothers, parents and children are comfortable.” Note the quotation marks around “our” children.
What Filipovic is looking for is a robust social welfare state with a paid parental leave policy (that includes fathers as well) for the first year of the child’s life; then, “universal high-quality childcare.” The tweets in her thread that really getting a lot of attention are these two:
More mothers at home makes for worse, more sexist men who see women as mommies and helpmeets. Men with stay-at-home wives are more sexist than men with working wives; they don’t assess women’s workplace contributions fairy; and they are less likely to hire and promote women.
— Jill Filipovic (@JillFilipovic) April 12, 2022
Stay-at-home mothers are psychologically and emotionally worse off than working mothers by just about every measure, from depression to anxiety to anger; they are much more likely than working mothers to say that they are struggling, and less likely to say that they are thriving.
— Jill Filipovic (@JillFilipovic) April 12, 2022
Do more sexist men make their wives stay at home, or does having the mother stay at home make the men more sexist? Or how about neither?
Been married for all of 3 years. 👇🙄 https://t.co/Gzn0RKRwXr
— Milo™ (@chasbottom) April 12, 2022
I see my wife as a mother (among other things.) I think that job is a thousand times more difficult and more important than writing a substack. But apparently that makes me sexist. https://t.co/xchhJQ8gjR
— David Harsanyi (@davidharsanyi) April 12, 2022
My husband is far from sexist and I am joyed with this life the Lord has given me.
Women are *nothing more* than an easy to replace number in the working world. At home, they are someone's world. They are irreplaceable.
More moms at home creates a healthier & stronger society. https://t.co/RUNYUvA419
— Samantha (@Agratefulheart_) April 12, 2022
I assume someone pays this midwit for her drivel, but I do not know why. Even if she agrees with you politically, her puerile arguments have to make you cringe. https://t.co/18vcsmAUct
— Physics Geek (@physicsgeek) April 12, 2022
What a sad thread. https://t.co/imDYq0xuwN
— Blame Big Government (@BlameBigGovt) April 12, 2022
Holy fuck you're a miserable hag. https://t.co/8y3iDH0VmI
— RBe (@RBPundit) April 12, 2022
Mothers, don't you dare stay home with your kids. (Meanwhile, no stats to back up her statements – but to ask about it would be sexist, no doubt.) https://t.co/ipYYUsnedQ
— Gigi Levangie, etc. (@GigiLevangie) April 12, 2022
The horror that men might see women as mothers and wives, you know, like every self replicating society in history.
This is worn and boring manipulation. Does it even work in 2022? https://t.co/1S1VtDTP8O
— Coach Noah Revoy | Arms Dealer For The Soul 🏴☠️ (@NoahRevoy) April 12, 2022
Your statements and policy ideas leave almost NO room for women to have any agency whatsoever.
Why? Why do you see women as having so little control over their actions that they're either slaves to a husband, or requiring MASSIVE government programs for any other outcome? https://t.co/6xuXOoYuHK
— Shuck (@LaBeardGuy) April 12, 2022
Oh look, another woke white woman spouting actual sexist garbage because some women love their kids. https://t.co/ru7rrZnbXs
— beesbonkle (@beesbionicle) April 12, 2022
It's demeaning for mothers to stay at home and raise their children which is why they should hire someone else to raise said children https://t.co/0G9NMl29HU
— TheAbottofCostello (@AbottofThe) April 12, 2022
Good point … what if a woman’s career turns out to be one of those providers of universal high-quality childcare? Will she still be worse off psychologically, or will she feel more fulfilled raising other people’s children?
But Jill is very happy and fulfilled. She's doing great, just ask her.
Look lady, you're not helping anyone by dumping all over the choices that other people make and without providing evidence you're just making a claim.
Modern journos in a nutshell. Miserable projection. https://t.co/N7xxTMNIf6
— Hannibal Lecture (@AltKurtis) April 12, 2022
‘I can assure you -I- am the CEO of this house’: Women blister Jill Filipovic over her thread claiming husbands are ‘bosses’ of SAHMs https://t.co/TZiNY4kbge
— Twitchy Team (@TwitchyTeam) March 11, 2021