Several times during my years on Twitter, I have argued with people about the idea of 'adult only weddings'. I am a very family oriented person with kids of my own. They are now adults and we attend weddings as a family, at times, and sometimes, they are invited to weddings on their own, these days. Back when they were kids, unless they were a part of the wedding party, they did not attend weddings with me. I am a firm believer most weddings should be kid free. I bet this bride wishes she would have heard this advice a few months ago.
Outraged bride struggles through vows as disrespectful guest lets tot cry during 'adults-only' ceremony pic.twitter.com/RpUfQt0rju
— New York Post (@nypost) February 17, 2025
Obviously, the parents should have taken the child out, but unfortunately, too many parents lack common sense. As a result, this ceremony was ruined and became news. Had the couple not invited children to the wedding, this would have been avoided.
Don’t understand why this woman is being villainized. She totally kept her composure, and the parent of the child absolutely should have taken him out of the room during this time. Kids are wonderful, but they’re not meant to be in every situation at all times https://t.co/VngXHzTQy5
— Allie Beth Stuckey (@conservmillen) February 19, 2025
The bride showed tremendous restraint. No blame should be placed on her. It's not that children aren't wonderful blessings. They are. On the other hand, weddings are sometimes long, sacred and quiet and most small kids are unable to sit through that kind of event.
Yeah she sure is outraged... 🙄 The kid was screaming and being disrespectful (yelling no! at a parent is not ok) the parent should take the kid out of the room. Plain & simple. Now, a quick fuss that is easily quieted isn't a big deal but this kid isn't a baby nor is it fussing. https://t.co/tWjEkNyiyL
— Grace-filled Goat (@CharlaChilla) February 19, 2025
Furthermore, the day is about the married couple. Kids love to run out on the dance floor and get in the middle of the dance circle and make it generally about them. Often, adults have been drinking and that's just not a safe place for small kids.
Yeah if a child is crying during a wedding or funeral, leave with the child. IMO it’s rude to sit there for minutes on end. Not all events are meant for unpredictability of children https://t.co/gyzEaWCBR3
— ConserveMeNot (@conservemenot) February 19, 2025
love this new form of radical pronatalism where you can’t ever have an adult only space, can’t ever express any annoyance of children, or even acknowledge the objective fact that it’s rude to let a toddler have a loud tantrum during an important event! https://t.co/ncF4GeI0q5
— bunnie (@CuriousBunnie12) February 19, 2025
We can be a society that values children and not have them in every single event and space known to man. It's fine for parents to get a babysitter and enjoy a night out as a couple. It's even fine for parents to decline an invitation if they are unable to get a babysitter. The only time a couple is obligated to allow you to bring your child is if that child is a flower girl or ring bearer. Otherwise, it is their choice. Also, if the couple is kind enough to allow you to bring your child, remove them when they make the first peep. In fact, bring plenty of quiet snacks, books and crayons, and if that doesn't work, slip out the back quietly because you sat in the last pew with a plan to exit if necessary. This is responsible parenting and will ensure you and your family are invited to other occasions.
